It’s a simple thought that occurred
while visiting some relatives last week.... The elderly lady, my dad’s aunt,
gave a passing reference, ``You know your father was born 11 days after I came
as a bride to their house.’’ That counts to sixty five long years of
togetherness! And the oldies seemed blissfully happy. They had a fascinating
charm to their relationship.
Fast forward to this morning...A
friend casually dropped in at my place. A smile that she entered our home with,
started to fade when I spoke about her daughter. She broke down...``we have
decided to separate with mutual consent and my husband and his family want to keep
the baby with them.’’ Having known the couple as separate individuals for
years, it is hard to believe. The words are still ringing in my ears...
Seeing families break these days, is
becoming more and more common, but you feel the pain when it is someone close
to you who is going through it.
No comparisons to be made here. But
just the thought – A beautiful complete story of those who are nearing the end
of their life’s journey and another going into shambles just as it has begun to
take complete shape....alas!
Two mature, good people giving in to
the strength of their large inflated egos! Details need no brooding as any
reason to justify such a dastardly decision, is crap. Three lives gone awry.
Will the little girl who has no idea why she will not be living with both her
parents as a family, ever value these relationships? What about the individuals
themselves – where has all the love gone? Doesn’t it hurt badly to let go
someone who has been a friend, companion and a partner with whom you have shared a part of
your life? Is the ego more important than the fulfillment of having a caring family,
people whom you have loved to be with?
Compromise, tolerance, trust and
respect are among the few very important ingredients to make any relationship
work. We do it every day with everyone and in every sphere of life, then why
not today and here?
There is no equation in marital
relation, but there are definitely some additions, some subtractions with
multiplications and divisions too! If we want to add strength to the marital
bond, we add the positivity and subtract negativity. Dividing the pain and
rough patches will definitely help multiply love and harmony.
Today, one of the best couples is
drifting away from each other...and as they say - personal matters should not
be interfered with, so, no one is taking the first step to tell the couple that
- You both are wrong. Just sit down, set aside that ego and look at the whole
thing once again. Is the reason for split good enough to put yourselves and a
small child go through all the pain? You may not care for each other’s feelings
but what is the fault of the child who will always ask why her family was not
the same as her friends?
Yes...you are right....I’m meeting
them tomorrow...I strongly believe that this marriage can definitely be saved!
This one’s just for the two wonderful people!
